Don’t compare – You see your neighbour just drive in with a brand-new car, John got the latest gaming station, Peter got 5 times what you have for pocket money, the list goes on. Everyone wants all that, same here, but sometime have you ever wonder what they have been missing? You never know, all parents will want to provide their best, however there is limitation, for parents who are working sometimes uses material thing to substitute their presences, there is a long story behind every family, since you are here why don’t make the most of it, and see how can you improve at your level, first. But if you really need to compare and you know you won’t want to be born in a third world country, where the basics are not even met. Be contented, look no further there is always someone more comfortable than you and a lot of people less fortunate than you, can you give a helping hand to someone who has lesser than you?
For parents: Sometimes when your kid is able to bring home something expensive home, while you know even if he don’t eat in school and the allowance you gave is not sufficient to bring that thing home, do be a bit inquisitive, how and what happen? Don’t jump into conclusion, observe ensure he is on the right path, if he earns it, encourage him. Many of this teenage fall into trap of the society where they “do easy job”, so long as they don’t catch up by the authority, or just this few occasions, they can wash their hands. This will lead to a bigger social problem later.
Help them to obtain their dreams, make a long term plan, but don’t use this as a bait to work, because if they find it too difficult they will have to choose their 2nd option, the short cut, and many people fall for that.
A parent told me “no” you can’t be too pampering, my point of view is slightly different, they know they can come and discuss how to get it, then to go sideways to obtain it. And at the same time, greed and other means of obtaining it diminished. I place no criteria to it, but just do your ultimate best, than to pressurised them, and nobody wants to fail or get bad results, what they know, they got what they want and the job is do their best, that’s all. Do you best, that all. And they usually do as, you have done your part, and so they will too.